"It’s no coincidence that the list of sins that Dean suggests for Sam’s confession are mostly the ones that are personal – to Dean. Sam’s choice of Ruby over him, Sam’s deception about not having a soul, Sam insisting on killing Lilith instead of listening to his brother. And the most recent wound, still raw for Dean (as well as for a good portion of fandom) – Sam not looking for Dean in Purgatory. It’s petty and irrational and emotional for Dean to hang onto his anger – but it’s equally human."
Kerri already addressed this last night, but I want to take the time out to address it again in this interview.
“Sam’s deception about not having a soul”
Someone please explain to me how not-having-a-soul is somehow Sam’s fault. Maybe he wanted to stay in Lucifer’s cage a little longer? Who knows, perhaps he likes being carved, gutted, torn, and mercilessly tortured…?
Sam not having a soul wasn’t a picnic. Out of all the people in the world, Dean should understand that the most. Dean was the one who went to hell first, he should know what hell does to you, and if he thought Alastair was bad, how awful would Lucifer be?
If one month in hell equaled ten years…… it means that Sam spent the better part of a 180 years (a year and a half right?) inside Lucifer’s cage being TORTURED.
Thank you for pointing out Sam’s deception!
Fucking Sam! It’s all your fault! I mean, who gives a shit if you were tortured and flayed and broken! You didn’t have your soul and it’s all your fault, so FUCK YOU.
Personally, I know Dean’s characterization well enough to say that Dean would never hold Sam’s soullessness against him, because it wasn’t Sam. It was just an empty vessel with a working brain of a genius. His little Sammy was down in hell being BBQ’d, and the idea that Dean would casually drops the bomb like that bothers me so much. Because that’s not the Dean that I know and love and respect.